"The Joystick Method - Let Your Partner Take Control

Let your partner lead.

A big part of the sensual attraction of intimacy is letting go of control and letting your partner lead. By offering your face, lips and tongue for your partner's pleasure, you create a space of trust, vulnerability and deep connection.

In this approach, your partner places their hands on the back of your head and guides you as if you were a joystick, allowing them to control the pace, rhythm and intensity according to their desire.

Here's how you do it:

1. Lead your partner to the edge of the bed and let them relax while you sink to your knees.
2. Undress them slowly and take the time to connect with the moment. Lay your head against their thighs, breathe deeply and feel the warmth of their skin and the rhythm of your breathing.
3. Place their hands on the back of your head and invite them to control the movement.
4. Ask them what they want - harder, softer, faster or slower?
5. Use your hands to support or enhance the experience and synchronize your movements with their hips.

To further enhance the experience, you can include verbal affirmations like: "I love feeling you against me" or "I will give you everything you want." If speaking becomes difficult, non-verbal cues can be used - such as a handshake to ask for a change in pace or intensity.