0. Initiating sex

How do you like your partner to initiate sex? How do you best show your partner that you want sex and how do you as a partner want to be approached?

It's important to remember that preferences vary from person to person and what works for one person may not necessarily work for another. Communication and respect are key to figuring out the best way to initiate sex with your partner and show your own interest. It would be a good idea if you can agree together that it's okay to express your desire to the other person and that it's also okay not to want to. Remember that if you find that your partner doesn't want to have sex, it rarely has anything to do with you. So avoid taking it personally.

1. Open and honest communication: The best starting point is to have an open and honest conversation with your partner about sexual preferences and desires. Express your needs and ask your partner what turns them on. This creates a safe and trusting atmosphere where you can both express your desires and boundaries.

2. Physical signals: Many people enjoy physical signals that show interest in sex. This can be small touches, kisses or caresses that signal desire and attraction. It's important to read your partner's reactions and respect their boundaries. If they don't respond positively to the physical signals, you may need to adjust your approach.

3. Verbal signalsVerbal cues can also be effective in setting the stage for sex. This can be expressing desire and attraction by saying things like "I really like it when you touch me like that" or "I really want you right now." It's important to pay attention to your partner's reaction and respect if they aren't ready or don't feel like it in the moment.

4. Creating an intimate atmosphere: Creating an intimate atmosphere can be a way to set the stage for sex. This can include things like lighting candles, playing sensual music or creating a relaxing and romantic atmosphere. It's important to remember that not everyone is attracted to or enjoys this type of atmosphere, so it's important to know your partner's preferences.

5. Respect for boundariesNo matter how you approach sex, it's important to respect your partner's boundaries and respect a no. Having clear agreements about consent and being aware of your partner's signals is crucial to creating a safe and enjoyable sexual experience for both parties.

6. MUMS - Opportunity for More Fun:

By trying, by showing up, by participating, by setting aside time, you create an "opportunity for more". Just the fact that "something" is happening makes the opportunity for more fun that much greater. (Watching Netflix or sitting on your phone is not doing something together...). Read more here: MUMS - Opportunity for More Fun

Pro-tip: You can explore what your partner's "Erotic Language" is and be inspired to try different approaches where you "speak" your partner's language. Find your erotic language here

For further inspiration, dive into this delicious article from Woman: 21 ways to set the mood for sex